How often have we heard this phrase in our personal lives or movies or even some talks – Relationships take a lot of work”.
But have we ever stopped to think if the opposite is also true?
When you take a pause to wonder about it, every relationship – professional or personal – is based on some key principles or foundations, without which, they tend to fall apart. So, what are these?
Well, let’s look at some key fundamentals here and you can decide for yourself if I’m talking about a personal relationship or the relationship with an organization. And if you cannot put it exclusively in any one of these boxes, well… you just made my case for me.
The right motives:
Think about why you want the relationship? What is it that you get out of it? If it is just to get laid (metaphor – incase you thought I’d make it that easy), it’s not going to last very long because you’re basically ignoring all your other needs and will jump out as soon as the possibility of any other shiny prospect presents itself. But if you want it because it is right for you, because it will challenge you, help you grow, make you a better version of yourself, then go for it and work at it with everything you’ve got (for 5 days and in reasonable hours – coz work life balance, duh)!
Communication is key:
Hate to sound like a cliché’ but talking helps. Transparency helps. Whether it’s during the first meet or throughout the duration…. You need to ask the right questions and answer honestly to the ones directed at you. The only way to find success in a relationship is if both parties walk in with their eyes wide open.
One-sided relationships never work:
Do I even need to elaborate? Alright, for your benefit – I will!
Let’s just say if you are not in it completely or feel that the other side isn’t in for the long haul, you might as well have a discussion and call it quits now, before you waste your time. This circle backs to my initial point of communication is key. Before you jump into something, make sure you understand what it is.
Appreciation breeds loyalty:
People like to feel that they’re making a difference. In fact the people who do, or can potentially make a difference are the only kinds of people worth being around. But it’s not enough to just be associated with them. People also like being valued for the contribution they make and when they feel all the work they’ve put in is being taken for granted or going unrecognized, they tend to walk away.
If they are good and know their worth, you would not find them complaining time and again… they would simply walk away, and you’ll be worse off for it.
Cheating WILL come back to bite you:
You know what they say about karma, right? Well, when its bad, it ain’t pretty. But let me be clear… cheating can’t always be put in a single box. But let’s take this definition into consideration – if you’re not being fair to the commitment you made, you’re cheating. And sooner or later, it will catch up to you.
Set mutual expectations:
While this can easily be bracketed under the communication point made above, it’s important enough to deserve its own bullet. How do you hope for people to rise to your expectations when you haven’t even discussed what they are? And it goes both ways. So, make sure you communicate exactly what it is that you want out of this relationship.
And that brings me to the end of this blog! Let me know if you agree or feel otherwise in the comments… and if you like what you see, feel free to share the love and stay tuned for the next blog.
Till then, keep your wits sharp and stay safe.
The Millennial Cult